Here’s the toy review you were promised, the We-Vibe 4+ Couples Vibrator we bought from LoveHoney.com. We paid for this product, we aren’t endorsed by lovehoney in any way (although if you’re reading this, lovehoney, we’re available).
I (Siren) have a lot of vibrators already, some I like more than others, some that work for me, some that don’t, big ones, small ones, pink ones, purple ones – all sorts. But I’ve never had one that can be controlled by an app, and never ever one that can be controlled by an app on the other side of the country. I had a discount code, so the WeVibe was only about $109 instead of $130 (nothing to sniff at) but we went halves in the purchase.
The packaging was very nice, everything fitted together nicely and the unboxing was very exciting. It came with the vibrator, a charging dock and cable (it’s USB charged), and a little satin bag for storage. I use the bag to sit on top of the vibe while it’s charging to prevent it getting too dusty.
When it arrived it was only on 1% charge so I had to put it in the little dock and wait a few hours. I had it plugged into the back of my computer because the cord isn’t very long, it has to be close to where it’s plugged in. I was a little wary because I live in a share house and I like to keep my toys out of sight and this one has to sit on my desk to charge, but so far nobody has asked about it.
The vibrator itself is quite powerful – it has a dual motor, one that sits inside and one that is outside on the clit. I don’t respond massively to internal stimulation, but it felt good when it was inside. It has a smaller end, which I love because I’m quite small and sometimes toys can hurt when they go in. It slides in pretty easily without lubricant because it’s so small, and once it’s in you can hardly feel it. The front part of the vibrator is quite thick and wide and reaches up towards my clit. It’s almost long enough to sit directly on it, so the vibration hits beneath it – which is fine! It edges me for longer rather than going directly onto my nerve endings and making me orgasm faster. If I gently push it up from where it comes out of my vagina, I can get it to sit on my clit for powerful stimulation.
The app is pretty simple to use. I sent an invite to Sailor via text from my app, and when he accepted it he was connected as ‘my lover’. I can see when my lover is online, and he can send a request to play. There’s video and audio chat available, as well as just regular chat. The app comes with built in vibrations with different patterns – waves, pulsing, etc – and you can also draw your own pattern or mix pre-made patterns to create your own. I’m a fan of the pink and blue coloured patterns which concentrate on the clit – the inside vibrations are nice but they don’t get me squirming like the others. You can see what your partner is doing with the patterns, and can take control back whenever you like to use the options yourself.
I found the only time I really wanted to take control back was when the we-vibe slipped out (which has happened a few times, it can get very slippery down there and it’ll slide right out) so I could pause it and readjust, before giving control back to Sailor. Other cons include that once it disconnected from Bluetooth after a while and I had to re-pair it in the middle of a session, and sometimes it can take a little long to pair it to start with. One session uses up about 15%-20% of battery life (which is displayed in the app) so you wouldn’t need to charge it after every session, but if you have long, long sessions… you might need to. I also found my clit would start to lose sensitivity after a while which made it harder to cum, but that’s happened with other vibrators before. I have to make sure that I cum before my clit loses too much sensitivity or else it becomes really difficult and a little disappointing.
Overall, I love it. We’ve only used it twice this week, but both times have been so exciting and unpredictable. It’s great to be able to still chat while using a vibrator, because often I have to put my phone down to use a vibrator which excludes Sailor from the action a little, and I’d rather have him included. With this vibrator he’s involved from start to finish, and I can tell him what I’m enjoying and what I’m not. We even invented a special code so I can just send emojis to let him know! It’s a little expensive, but because we’re in different states, I think it’s one of the best sex toys we could own in a LDR. I would completely recommend this for anyone who’s far away from their partner and still wants to be involved in their sex life. My only sadness is that there isn’t one I can use on Sailor! Well, there is – but we’re going to need a lot more money.